Ep 79The Hidden Cost of Success
"I'm watching my husband die, and I'm watching him cheer all the way."
Dr. John Delony
The Hidden Cost of Success
with Dr. John Delony
I don't have a psychology for the word enough.
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Quotes
“There's no hack. It's just slow and boring.”
“Don't ever fall off the wagon, but do stop the wagon and climb down and roll around in the mud for a while.”
“Loneliness will kill you. And so what's the point in having all the money if it just kills you?”
“You want to give your kid everything and they're saying, I just want you.”
“When you make an I statement, that's an invitation. You make a you statement, it's a fight.”
“If the same thing happens to you three times, look in the mirror.”
“I'm watching the student debt bury a generation of people. Don't do it.”
Takeaways
- 1 Relationships, money, mental, physical and spiritual health are woven together. You can't fix one and ignore the rest.
- 2 There are no shortcuts: slow, boring daily habits add up in money, fitness and marriage.
- 3 Many wealthy people are lonely because they gave up relationships to chase more. His #1 bestseller ended with him alone in a hotel room, having stopped 'watering the plants' of his friendships.
- 4 His wife told him: 'John, we have enough.' Growing up with little money leaves a scarcity instinct that keeps pushing for more.
- 5 'Enough' is a muscle you practice. There are seasons to work 20-hour days and seasons to say no.
- 6 Money problems are usually a symptom of deeper issues at home or inside you.
- 7 'You' statements start fights; 'I' statements invite. Admitting fear is especially hard for men, and it works.
- 8 Couples use the same words ('let's be tighter with money') and picture very different things.
- 9 Rule of three: blow the budget once, it happens; three times, there's a core issue to deal with.
- 10 Judge others favorably. The negative stories we make up only hurt us.
- 11 Wealthy people still save for their kids' college. Student debt limits people's freedom; skipping college means you must invest more in friendships and community.